Understanding the assumptions we make that drive us to behave in certain ways, is the beginning of freeing us up to behave in new and more effective ways.
When I’m coaching leaders (and sometimes whole teams) I often refer to Kegan and Lahey’s incredibly effective #immunitytochange process and ask leaders:
- List all the things you do that ensure you WON’T achieve your goal.
- What you would worry about if you did the opposite of each of those actions?
You can then begin to uncover the things you’re really committed to and, importantly, the assumptions you make about these things. Some of those assumptions will be true, others….well, maybe not so true any more!
How often do you look at what you’re trying to achieve and wonder what might be getting in your way? What questions would you like someone else to ask you?